Friday, July 30, 2010

sabotage

Oh how I wish this could be sent to BM. I wonder if there will ever be a place where she could read this?

How Sabotaging Stepmoms Hurts Your Children

Monday, July 26, 2010

MIA

Sorry all - I know that you were waiting impatiently for my next post. :-P

Things are good. Actually, really good. My antidepressants are doing what they're supposed to do - thus proving to me that my depression isn't just something that I can snap out of, but a really-truly chemical imbalance that requires medication to function at baseline. It's not what I want, but it is what it is. I'd rather be functional and on medication, then depressed without them.

Things with the husband have also been so much better. Fights are limited, and we can usually get over them pretty quickly. After a two-week break (with me being out of town and then our therapist on vacation), we're headed back to couples counseling this week. Even though things are going well, I know that we have some communication issues to work out.

On the step-mom front, things are going alright. These kids are so amazing and resilient. I'm still annoyed and hating how much money we give to BM - but I can't waste too much energy on it. The husband has been to two co-parenting/medication sessions with her so far. The therapist/mediator suspects that BM has a personality disorder -- something I suspected a while ago. The bi-polar diagnosis that BM claims just doesn't fit at all. I have a MA in clinical psych and I know what bi-polar looks like. So, great - we're dealing with a basically untreatable mental illness. I mostly just feel sorry for the kids. It seems like the longer husband and I are together, and the happier we are -- the crazier she gets. Just imagine how crazy she's going to be when we decide to have our own kids. *gulp*